Spanking, all over the world

This map shows where readers of this blog reside and, like a well-spanked bottom, it’s pink all over.

Many never talk openly about their kinks and fantasies. Some might even be rather ashamed of their desires, considering them somehow weird and perverted. Yet, as this map shows, an interest in spanking isn’t weird at all – in fact, if anything, it’s a global phenomenon.

The darker shades of pink show where most visitors originate, these are areas like the UK and large populous states of the US, like New York, California and Texas. Many readers also come from Canada and Ireland, Australia and New Zealand.

But that doesn’t mean spanking is a purely Anglo-Saxon kink, there are also many visitors from all over Europe, especially Germany, France, Italy and Russia. And intriguingly, there are also many visitors from regions where English isn’t the primary language, like South America, Arabia and south-east Asia.

In fact, the only blank spaces on the map are areas of sub-Saharan Africa, plus Cuba, Turkmenistan and Tajikistan. And North Korea.

This tells me two things. One – that English really is the lingua franca of the web, and two –  an interest in spanking is common to all cultures. If a country has a free-as-in-speech internet connection, someone in that country is going to use it to read stories about spanking…

Yet I’ve often wondered how spankings vary across different cultures.

Online, the western view of spanking is pervasive. It is a vocabulary of school uniforms and canes, bedrooms and hairbrushes, whips and cuffs in a bedroom, or across a knee in a suburban living room. This is a view of spanking pioneered by British fetish magazines 40 years ago, and continued by producers of spanking videos (primarily in western Europe and the US), who know what their viewers want and respond accordingly.

But spanking stories and films from other parts of the world have shown there’s more to a smacked bottom than the familiar tropes. Czech company RGE Films, for instance, channels their country’s still-recent memory of authoritarian communism to produce quite unique spanking stories. Whilst on the other side of the world Hand Spanking depicts distinctively Japanese disciplinary tales.

But what about the rest of the world? What stories would a South American tell? Or someone from the Middle East? Surely amongst the two billion people in India and China there are some fascinating spanking tales to tell.

For years now, I’ve been telling you tales from my own imagination, some inspired by episodes of my own experiences – but why should this remain a one-way medium? After all, unlike the printed word and the moving picture, blogs have the potential to be interactive. So, to mark the new year, I’m going to initiate the #worldofspanking project, and invite you to share the memories of your formative spanking experiences…

How did you come to be interested in spanking?

Perhaps it’s the first spanking you watched, or the first you gave or received? Perhaps it was a time when you experienced extraordinary sensations or emotions. Or something about the circumstances that made it so special.

What I hope to learn is how the cultures we grow up in affect our intimate fantasies. What really goes on behind the bedroom doors of faraway places? How do the experiences of those living in liberal countries compare to those where the attitude to sexuality is more conservative? What implements are used? And what aspects of your own culture and recent history have seeped into your fantasies?

I’d love to know what role have stories played, the books and fairytales in your native tongue. Or was your interest first inspired by films or what you’ve seen online?

There is a delicious irony in eroticism: intimacy is about being truly known, naked and exposed, and yet we can be at our most honest when sending little messages-in-bottles to faraway strangers. Ultimately I’d love to get at least one for every country on the planet. I’ll continue to curate submissions, posting the best of what you send. I do hope you’ll take part.

To submit a contribution, you can either:

• Use the submission form – to remain anonymous, log out of tumblr and use a dummy name and email address in the form.

• Or, you can just email spankingtheatre@gmail.com

All submissions will be anonymous, and you can write whatever you desire, just mention which country you live in.

So, here’s a few ideas to get you thinking. Why not…

• Describe your most memorable spanking experience.
• Describe how you came to be interested in spanking.
• Explain how does spanking in your culture differs from how you’ve seen it portrayed in film and online.
• Or, how your culture influences your spanking fantasies.

I, and the many thousands who read this blog, look forward to learning your stories.

Spanking, all over the world

This map shows where readers of this blog reside and, like a well-spanked bottom, it’s pink all over.

Many never talk openly about their kinks and fantasies. Some might even be rather ashamed of their desires, considering them somehow weird and perverted. Yet, as this map shows, an interest in spanking isn’t weird at all – in fact, if anything, it’s a global phenomenon.

The darker shades of pink show where most visitors originate, these are areas like the UK and large populous states of the US, like New York, California and Texas. Many readers also come from Canada and Ireland, Australia and New Zealand.

But that doesn’t mean spanking is a purely Anglo-Saxon kink, there are also many visitors from all over Europe, especially Germany, France, Italy and Russia. And intriguingly, there are also many visitors from regions where English isn’t the primary language, like South America, Arabia and south-east Asia.

In fact, the only blank spaces on the map are areas of sub-Saharan Africa, plus Cuba, Turkmenistan and Tajikistan. And North Korea.

This tells me two things. One – that English really is the lingua franca of the web, and two –  an interest in spanking is common to all cultures. If a country has a free-as-in-speech internet connection, someone in that country is going to use it to read stories about spanking…

Yet I’ve often wondered how spankings vary across different cultures.

Online, the western view of spanking is pervasive. It is a vocabulary of school uniforms and canes, bedrooms and hairbrushes, whips and cuffs in a bedroom, or across a knee in a suburban living room. This is a view of spanking pioneered by British fetish magazines 40 years ago, and continued by producers of spanking videos (primarily in western Europe and the US), who know what their viewers want and respond accordingly.

But spanking stories and films from other parts of the world have shown there’s more to a smacked bottom than the familiar tropes. Czech company RGE Films, for instance, channels their country’s still-recent memory of authoritarian communism to produce quite unique spanking stories. Whilst on the other side of the world Hand Spanking depicts distinctively Japanese disciplinary tales.

But what about the rest of the world? What stories would a South American tell? Or someone from the Middle East? Surely amongst the two billion people in India and China there are some fascinating spanking tales to tell.

For years now, I’ve been telling you tales from my own imagination, some inspired by episodes of my own experiences – but why should this remain a one-way medium? After all, unlike the printed word and the moving picture, blogs have the potential to be interactive. So, to mark the new year, I’m going to initiate the #worldofspanking project, and invite you to share the memories of your formative spanking experiences…

How did you come to be interested in spanking?

Perhaps it’s the first spanking you watched, or the first you gave or received? Perhaps it was a time when you experienced extraordinary sensations or emotions. Or something about the circumstances that made it so special.

What I hope to learn is how the cultures we grow up in affect our intimate fantasies. What really goes on behind the bedroom doors of faraway places? How do the experiences of those living in liberal countries compare to those where the attitude to sexuality is more conservative? What implements are used? And what aspects of your own culture and recent history have seeped into your fantasies?

I’d love to know what role have stories played, the books and fairytales in your native tongue. Or was your interest first inspired by films or what you’ve seen online?

There is a delicious irony in eroticism: intimacy is about being truly known, naked and exposed, and yet we can be at our most honest when sending little messages-in-bottles to faraway strangers. Ultimately I’d love to get at least one for every country on the planet. I’ll continue to curate submissions, posting the best of what you send. I do hope you’ll take part.

To submit a contribution, you can either:

• Use the submission form – to remain anonymous, log out of tumblr and use a dummy name and email address in the form.

• Or, you can just email spankingtheatre@gmail.com

All submissions will be anonymous, and you can write whatever you desire, just mention which country you live in.

So, here’s a few ideas to get you thinking. Why not…

• Describe your most memorable spanking experience.
• Describe how you came to be interested in spanking.
• Explain how does spanking in your culture differs from how you’ve seen it portrayed in film and online.
• Or, how your culture influences your spanking fantasies.

I, and the many thousands who read this blog, look forward to learning your stories.

I just read Sandalwood and Ginger. I was so turned on, but I was a good girl and didn’t touch myself while reading it. It makes me want to make a naughty list of all the things I have done wrong in my life, and give it to someone to punish me for each and every one.

I think the Naughty List as described in that story would be an amazingly powerful document. It would be an expression of complete submission, you’d be completely discarding your mask, to reveal every time you’d failed to live up to the standard you expect for yourself. 

Over time, what we hide away becomes intensely erotic. If you were to sit down and write out your Naughty List, I predict you’d find the process very arousing. Even if you kept the list secret, I suspect you’d find re-reading it much more erotic than any porn or kinky fiction.

Giving your Naughty List to someone would be an action of the greatest emotional intimacy, a far more powerful statement of submission than accepting a collar. With that list, your lover would suddenly know all your flaws, all the skeletons in your closet, your naughtiness would be unequivocal, and they’d have a lifetime of reasons to discipline you.

The more you think about it, and what would actually be on it, the hotter the idea of a Naughty List becomes, don’t you think?

I just read Sandalwood and Ginger. I was so turned on, but I was a good girl and didn’t touch myself while reading it. It makes me want to make a naughty list of all the things I have done wrong in my life, and give it to someone to punish me for each and every one.

I think the Naughty List as described in that story would be an amazingly powerful document. It would be an expression of complete submission, you’d be completely discarding your mask, to reveal every time you’d failed to live up to the standard you expect for yourself. 

Over time, what we hide away becomes intensely erotic. If you were to sit down and write out your Naughty List, I predict you’d find the process very arousing. Even if you kept the list secret, I suspect you’d find re-reading it much more erotic than any porn or kinky fiction.

Giving your Naughty List to someone would be an action of the greatest emotional intimacy, a far more powerful statement of submission than accepting a collar. With that list, your lover would suddenly know all your flaws, all the skeletons in your closet, your naughtiness would be unequivocal, and they’d have a lifetime of reasons to discipline you.

The more you think about it, and what would actually be on it, the hotter the idea of a Naughty List becomes, don’t you think?

Could you possibly post more naughty games that can be played secretly for those with roommates/family? Thank you xx

Of course.

I was planning to add a few more silent games when I find some time. But until then, you can make a few adjustments to some of the existing games to play them more discreetly.

For example, Squirm can be played fully clothed or underneath your bed covers. If you’re watching something erotic, just use a screen (like a phone or tablet) that isn’t going to be visible if you’re suddenly interrupted. A laptop is even better, as you can put it on your lap – not only will it block wandering fingers, it will conceal the erections of naughty boys, and everyone will enjoy feeling the laptop’s heat on the crotch. In this variation you’ll be playing against yourself, so rather than sending a message to a disciplinarian, try to beat your own personal best time for self-control.

A more discreet variation of The Panty Pulling Chair is possible for those with a bedstead. Sit upright in bed with your back to it, and tie your panties to the bedstead. Then pull your bed covers over you and slowly begin to slip further down the bed. Ideally by the time you’re lying horizontally, your panties will have been pulled tight. And if you’re ever interrupted, you’ll be lying on top of the pulling cord, so nothing will be visible.

Ups and Downs can also be played underneath bed covers. Or if you’d like to stand, wear a dressing gown, this will allow you to feel the sensations of exposure yet still enable you to close your gown and preserve your modesty if you’re suddenly interrupted.

The ideal place to play the Dildo Ritual privately is when having a bath. Place the dildo in the bath as you run the water, and kneel over it, and then enjoy the urge to impale yourself as the warm waters rise up your thighs.

Secret Reading you’ll probably already know about, as it was designed to be played quietly and alone.

And the new game Throne can also be played discretely, but instead of a chair, sit upright in bed, with your back to a wall or your bedstead. Insert your butt plug before you get into bed, and then get under your bed covers. Put a hardback book or something similar underneath you in bed if you want to provide something for the plug to push against for a deeper sensation of penetration.

Most of all, experiment, and have fun…

Could you possibly post more naughty games that can be played secretly for those with roommates/family? Thank you xx

Of course.

I was planning to add a few more silent games when I find some time. But until then, you can make a few adjustments to some of the existing games to play them more discreetly.

For example, Squirm can be played fully clothed or underneath your bed covers. If you’re watching something erotic, just use a screen (like a phone or tablet) that isn’t going to be visible if you’re suddenly interrupted. A laptop is even better, as you can put it on your lap – not only will it block wandering fingers, it will conceal the erections of naughty boys, and everyone will enjoy feeling the laptop’s heat on the crotch. In this variation you’ll be playing against yourself, so rather than sending a message to a disciplinarian, try to beat your own personal best time for self-control.

A more discreet variation of The Panty Pulling Chair is possible for those with a bedstead. Sit upright in bed with your back to it, and tie your panties to the bedstead. Then pull your bed covers over you and slowly begin to slip further down the bed. Ideally by the time you’re lying horizontally, your panties will have been pulled tight. And if you’re ever interrupted, you’ll be lying on top of the pulling cord, so nothing will be visible.

Ups and Downs can also be played underneath bed covers. Or if you’d like to stand, wear a dressing gown, this will allow you to feel the sensations of exposure yet still enable you to close your gown and preserve your modesty if you’re suddenly interrupted.

The ideal place to play the Dildo Ritual privately is when having a bath. Place the dildo in the bath as you run the water, and kneel over it, and then enjoy the urge to impale yourself as the warm waters rise up your thighs.

Secret Reading you’ll probably already know about, as it was designed to be played quietly and alone.

And the new game Throne can also be played discretely, but instead of a chair, sit upright in bed, with your back to a wall or your bedstead. Insert your butt plug before you get into bed, and then get under your bed covers. Put a hardback book or something similar underneath you in bed if you want to provide something for the plug to push against for a deeper sensation of penetration.

Most of all, experiment, and have fun…

My boyfriend was wondering how he could leave a handprint when he spanks me because he knows it turns me on.

To leave a handprint, he will need to spank you hard on the same place for a while, and at an angle that ensures every finger of his palm smacks your bottom.

During most spankings, smacks tend to be distributed across the bottom cheeks, and this overlapping obscures any handprints before they’re discernible. So for a handprint to emerge, he’ll have to concentrate on spanking the same spot, maintaining his accuracy whilst also striking hard enough to leave marks.

So, no wiggling… 

My boyfriend was wondering how he could leave a handprint when he spanks me because he knows it turns me on.

To leave a handprint, he will need to spank you hard on the same place for a while, and at an angle that ensures every finger of his palm smacks your bottom.

During most spankings, smacks tend to be distributed across the bottom cheeks, and this overlapping obscures any handprints before they’re discernible. So for a handprint to emerge, he’ll have to concentrate on spanking the same spot, maintaining his accuracy whilst also striking hard enough to leave marks.

So, no wiggling… 

Here’s something to imagine, Your Highness, as you sit upon your Throne.

Your Ladies-In-Waiting, each naked, apart from a filigree of leather around their waists, which holds this little brass device in place. 

See how it parts their most intimate lips to your regal eyes, truly they have no secrets to keep from you, Majesty.

Standing obediently in the edge of your dais, a few paces in front of your golden throne. What a delight it is, watching them glisten in the throneroom’s flickering candlelight.

What a joy it is to see them seep and drip, aroused by the punishments and erotic activities performed for your entertainment. How they like to watch a girl dance upon the wooden horse, and witness the whippings of miscreants brought from the dungeons. 

You have warned your courtesans not to touch themselves. A little brass hood covers each girl’s clit, shielding her pearl from her straying fingers. Yet you are generous, Majesty, prepared to call a girl to your side when necessary, and slide a royal finger between their legs.

What a delight it is to see a girl wilt with joy, her knees buckling in an orgasmic curtesy. A demonstration of your regal power that makes you bear down resplendently upon the protrusion on your seat. 

Soon, you will dismiss the court, and be left alone with your eager aching courtesans. And there will be much pleasure enjoyed, as one by one, they begin to pay their tribute between your knees…

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Image via wellredandremorseful – does anyone know the source, and if the item is available to buy?