It got me thinking – telling your partner you’re into spanking can be a daunting prospect, whatever your gender. It’s a challenge that’s inspired me to write a new article – one about personal fantasies and the awkwardness of revealing them, which should be ready to post tomorrow.
If you have a spanking-related question of your own, you’re very welcome to ask; I’ll do my best to answer.
What would be your reaction if you watched a mainstream movie with friends or family that contained a scene like this? Ostentatious delight or embarrassed chuckles?
Come to think of it, how many people know of your most cherished fantasies? Have you ever felt awkward about keeping them secret?
Here’s a passage that might get you thinking, by the great psychologist Carl Jung:
“I had a dream which both frightened and encouraged me. It was night in some unknown place, and I was making slow and painful headway against a mighty wind. Dense fog was flying along everywhere.
“I had my hands cupped around a tiny light which threatened to go out at any moment. Everything depended on my keeping the little light alive. Suddenly I had the feeling that something was coming up behind me. I looked back, and saw a gigantic black figure following me. But at the same moment I was conscious in spite of my terror, that I must keep my little light going through night and wind, regardless of the dangers.
“When I awoke I realized at once that the figure was my own shadow on the swirling mists, brought into being by the little light I was carrying. I knew too that this little light was my consciousness, the only light I have. Though infinitely small and fragile in comparison with the powers of darkness, it is still a light, my only light.”
Isn’t that first sentence intriguing? "I had a dream which both frightened and encouraged me.”
Even Jung was frightened and disturbed by his dreams sometimes. But he realised that every light casts a shadow, and we’re biologically wired to perceive shadows as dark. But it’s easy to forget about the beautiful, unique and wondrous light that cast the shadow – that’s You.
Anticipation is something to savour, a deliciously arousing entrée that makes the subsequent banquet all the more satisfying. Whether you’re waiting on a spanking stool, or standing with your back to an open window, or in front of a full-length mirror, all dressed up. Anticipation is an essential prelude to any good spanking!
The 4th part of the Self-Spanking Challenge – a series of posts to encourage the curious reader to explore and indulge in spanking
activities, in the privacy of your own bedroom. Previous challenges can be found here, but feel free to follow at your own pace, whenever you have the time and inclination, there’s no hurry to keep up.
Challenge – Day 4
In today’s challenge you’re going to get your bare bottom spanked. Not right now, but soon. I’m going to teach you about the power of anticipation, and tummy-tingling thrill of waiting, knowing your spanking is imminent and inevitable. Then, afterwards, you’re going to sit down on your smacked bottom and write about what you’ve learned…
If you’re a keen reader of this blog, you’ll know that every good spanking is wrapped in its own little rituals. Activities like waiting and undressing, inspection and reflection book-end the actual bottom smacking, immersing both miscreant and reader in the theatre of a spanking. It’s how the blog got its name, after all.
So for this challenge, you’re going to get a spanking, but you’re going to have wait for it.
Begin by deciding on a scenario that involves waiting. Perhaps your disciplinarian wants to leave you to stew for a while, to spend some time in silent contemplation as you ponder your imminent punishment. Or perhaps the delay is practical, your disciplinarian is busy, with better things to do than smack your silly little bottom, so you’re sent away to prepare yourself, and wait.
Once you’ve decided on the setting, get everything ready for your spanking. For instance, if you’re imagining a bedtime spanking, with your disciplinarian telling you sternly to go to your room, and that they’ll be up to deal with you shortly. So get ready, put on your pyjamas or nightie, put your pillows in a pile in the middle of your bed, with the implement you’ll be spanked by on top of it. You might even brush your teeth.
Now stand beside your bed, and set a timer, maybe an hourglass egg-timer, or the countdown timer on your mobile phone. A 10 minute wait is reasonable. Stand waiting in silence as the timer counts down. You might want to bare your bottom as a sign of obedience, so your disciplinarian knows you’re fully accepting of your punishment.
When the time runs out, imagine your disciplinarian walking into the room. Bend over your pillows, and give yourself the spanking you deserve.
Some more ideas
An alternative to just standing as you wait is Ups and Downs, an activity described in the eponymous story. For this, you pull your underwear down, standing with your bottom exposed for 30 seconds, then pull your panties up again. You can do this standing with your nose in the corner of your room, or standing on a low stool, or facing a full-length mirror.
Mirrors are a great way to amplify your anticipation, as instead of allowing your mind to wander, your attention is inevitably drawn back to yourself.
Perhaps this marvellous picture might inspire you. Notice all the different ways that setting builds anticipation: she’s dressed in her uniform, she’s made to watch herself in her mirror, she’s holding the implement that will soon spank her (in her mouth) and her bottom is already bared.
Perhaps you can incorporate some of those ideas. Sit down opposite a mirror, either holding a spanking implement or with it placed upon your lap. You might like to dress accordingly, and you can pull down or take off your underwear so you’re sitting on a bare bottom.
And then when your timer runs out, it’s time for your spanking.
After you’ve been spanked, sit down on your sore bottom and begin writing. You may write publicly on your blog, or privately in your own journal.
I challenge you to write a short post describing how you waited, and how it felt to have to wait, knowing your spanking was approaching. Describe your feelings of anticipation, did you feel anxious or aroused?
And now, as you sit on your smacked bottom writing, are you imagining it as a continuation of your fantasy?
Did you enjoy your enforced anticipation? Will you incorporate it into your spanking fantasies next time you play? And what variations might you try?
When you’ve finished, post what you’ve written with the tags #selfspankingchallenge and #selfspankingchallenge4
And then, I’m sure you’ll be keen to play.
The next challenge will be posted soon. In the meantime, do have fun…
And so begins the story ‘GLIMPSE’, a spanking ghost story by ‘Spanking Theatre’ who asked me to do this illustration for him.
I fully recommend his site/blog, he cleverly subtitles it by the wonderful phrase…
“SPANKING STORIES FOR THE THEATRE BETWEEN YOUR EARS”
you can find him here on tumblr…
This is a truly marvellous image, @asajones2 has done a brilliant job capturing what I’d
imagined when I first wrote those words. And it’s such a beautifully unusual image too, it’s so rare to have
that kind of distance separating viewer and subject in erotic
photography. Usually the subject is close, leaving nothing to the imagination. But here she’s frustratingly distant, blurred by the intervening window pane. Yet her pose draws in the eye, and now
you’re hooked. You yearn to see more…
But whilst you’re staring at the girl’s bare bottom, something sinister creeps into the corner of your eye, like some ominous memento mori. Too late you realise, you’re seeing something you weren’t supposed to see. Few erotic images have such subtlety.
I wonder, when you read Glimpse for yourself, what will you see in the theatre between your ears?
I recommend making a pledge to yourself:
I will not touch myself until I’ve done the latest challenge.
After all, the whole point of the challenges is to encourage readers to incorporate self-spanking into their own playtimes. Denial can be a powerful motivator, and if you make that commitment you’ll soon find yourself very keen indeed to complete the latest challenge. I know several readers who use this method.
The challenges have a deliberately gentle introduction, to help you get started. Post your commitment on your blog if you feel announcing it will prevent backsliding, or send me a private message and I will definitely hold you to account. I can be very strict.
Appelée à l’honneur de réciter un compliment devant le Président de la République, ne lui dites pas à l’oreille quand il vous embrasse : « Viens chez maman, je te ferai bander. »
Should you have the honour of being called to pay homage to the President of the Republic, do not whisper into his ear when he kisses you: “Come back to Mummy’s place, I’ll make you hard.”
Si même vous le reconnaissez pour un vieil habitué de la maison clandestine où vous prostituez votre petite bouche, ne l’appelez pas « gros bébé » devant sa maison militaire.
Even if you recognise him as a regular patron of the underground house where you prostitute your little mouth, do not call him “Big Baby” before his entourage.
Ne l’appelez pas non plus « vieux satyre » en lui réclamant cent mille francs de chantage pour prix de votre discrétion.
Do not call him an “old satyr” when demanding a hundred thousand francs in blackmail as price of your discretion.
Si, par contre, il vous fait enlever secrètement, et se précipite sur votre derrière pour assouvir sa lubricité, rien ne vous oblige à vous laisser violer par le chef de l’État.
If, on the other hand, he has you secretly abducted, and spurts on your behind to satisfy his lust, nothing obliges you to let yourself be violated by the head of state.
Si, de votre plein gré, vous couchez avec lui, et s’il vous prie de lui faire pipi dans la bouche, ne lui objectez pas que cet acte serait indigne du respect que vous lui devez. Il connaît le protocole mieux que vous.
If, of your own free will, you sleep with him, and he asks you to pee in his mouth, do not object that this act would be unworthy of the respect you owe him. He knows the protocol better than you.
Vous pouvez demander à M. le Président de la République une mèche de ses cheveux pour vous rappeler ses faveurs, mais il serait indiscret de lui couper la pine pour la conserver en souvenir de lui.
You may ask the President of the Republic for a lock of his hair as a reminder of his favour, but it would be indiscreet to cut off his cock to keep as a souvenir.
Si au cours d’une vadrouille nocturne, vous rencontrez le Président de la République complètement saoul, tombé dans le ruisseau, faites-le reconduire à l’Élysée avec les honneurs dus à son titre.
If during the course of your late-night wanderings, you encounter the President of the Republic blind drunk, tumbled in the gutter, get him back to the Élysée with all the honour due his title.
Si M. le Président de la République venait à mourir subitement pendant que vous tétez son foutre, vous pouvez raconter l’histoire à tout le monde : on ne vous poursuivra pas. Il y a des précédents.
If the President of the Republic were to die suddenly whilst you are sucking out his cum, you can tell the story to everyone: you will not be prosecuted. There are precedents.
(This refers to the fate of Félix_Faure, President of France who died suddenly in office, reputedly whilst his mistress was sucking him off).
@asajones2 produces some wonderful original work, which I highly recommend. He’s even working on an illustrated spanking novel set in 18th century London flagellation brothels. These are laudable efforts to be actively encouraged! Do follow him.
This is a series of posts, posted a weekly, with the aim of encouraging the curious reader to explore and indulge in spanking activities, in the privacy of your own bedroom.
Previous challenges can be found here, but feel free to follow at your own pace, whenever you have the time and inclination, there’s no hurry to keep up.
Challenge – Day 3
In today’s challenge you’re going to dress up, and then you’re going to get your bottom spanked. I’m going to teach you about how clothes help establish your own fantasy world, and then you’re going to sit down on your smacked bottom and write about what you’ve learned…
So, if you were going to dress up for a spanking, what would you wear?
What could you improvise from your current wardrobe? Would it be a school uniform, a shirt, a tie and a skirt or trousers? Or perhaps something a maid might wear? Or perhaps it would be a bedtime spanking, and you’d be wearing pyjamas or a nightgown. Or maybe even a spanking by the pool in your swimwear, or in the changing room in your gym kit, or in ballet class in a leotard.
Or perhaps you’re imagining a spanking from a lover, so you dress seductively, in an evening dress with your most provocative lingerie underneath. Or maybe you’d prefer the simple garments of a slave, a simple sheet folded, wrapped and tied around your waist.
Or maybe you’re imagining yourself as an action heroine like Nancy Jones, dressed ready for acrobatics and adventure.
Have a think, what mood are you trying create? Is the spanking you’re imagining for punishment or pleasure? Are you picturing yourself as a character who’s submissive or seductive? Big or little? Naughty or salacious? How would they dress?
Once you’ve decided, it’s time to get dressed. Exhibitionists might like to take a picture of their costume, either on themselves, or laid out on their bed. The shy might just prefer to write about what they’ve chosen.
Take as much time as you need to get into character, then when you’re ready, it’s time for your spanking. Follow the pattern you learned last week, choose your implement, a position and the duration of your spanking.
Then, commence your spanking. This time it’s up to you if and when your bottom is bared, depending on what you’re wearing and the nature of your fantasy.
Afterwards, when you’ve got your breath back, you may get up – without rubbing yourself – and sit down on your spanked bottom to begin writing. You may write publicly on your blog, or privately in your own journal.
I challenge you to write a short post about the erotic effect of dressing up. What did you wear? How did it make you feel?
I challenge you to describe your spanking, did dressing up make it a different experience to the one you experienced last week? As you sit on your sore bottom writing, are you imagining it as a continuation of your fantasy?
Finally, did you enjoy dressing up? Name another costume that you might like to try next time.
When you’ve finished, post what you’ve written, you can use the tags #selfspankingchallenge and #selfspankingchallenge3
And then, it might very well be time to play.
The next challenge will be posted next weekend. In the meantime, do enjoy yourself…