Let me tell you: millions would.

According to a 2014 survey of over 1,500 Canadian adults, 44% of men and 24% of women would like to spank someone else. So if you’re not interested in sex, that’s cool – you get to choose a partner from BOTH pools!

Of those who like spanking others, most will play as part of a sexual relationship. But not everyone. The most glorious thing about human sexuality is its diversity. As long as both partners consent, there is no right and wrong, just a spectrum of love and physical contact being expressed in different ways.

In my article Why do you like spanking?, I explain how spanking it fundamentally a form of adult play, and it doesn’t need to involve sex. I’d recommend it if you haven’t yet read it.

Contemporary culture seems to suggest everyone’s having sex, all the time. But this is not true. There are plenty of people who aren’t that bothered about sex, or prefer to experience sexual pleasure alone.

Lift up your eyes, and you’ll begin to see the possibilities. You might find a partner for spanking roleplay: ageplay and teacher/student scenes don’t need to be sexual. Or they might be your disciplinarian rather than a lover. They might be gay, and not into your gender, but still be happy to spank your bottom. Or they might not be into sex at all, just like you.

For many, spanking isn’t just an aspect of their sexuality, it is their sexuality. Be optimistic and open-minded, and opportunities will present themselves. Embrace who you are, and I wish you every happiness.