The science of spanking is quite straightforward, pain is proportional is to the force of the impact. and Newton’s 2nd Law says that’s the product of mass and acceleration.

So if you want a less painful spanking, you have three options:

  1. reduce mass (use a lighter spanking implement)
  2. reduce speed (less backlift when swinging the implement)
  3. or, reduce the experienced impact force (using a shock absorber)

For instance, why not try a wooden spatula with a foam cleaning pad (like those you use to clean dirty dishes) tied around it. That will allow you to experience the ‘blow’ of each spank as it lands, but the foam will dissipate the force long before it reaches your skin.

Once you’re comfortable with the sensations, try replacing the foam with something thinner, like wrapping a dishcloth (or two) around the spatula.

An alternative approach, which achieves the same effect is to be spanked over thick clothing. I can remember once playing with a nervous spankee who wore half a dozen pairs of panties under her skirt.

After every dozen spanks, I flipped up her skirt to inspect her, before scolding her for trying to evade her punishment. Each time she was ‘caught’, she would signal she was happy to keep playing by lowering the outermost pair of her panties. And our game would continue.

By the time I reached her final pair of panties, they were soaked, and she got what she’d been yearning for on her bare bottom at last.

Making the muffled sensations part of the game, really helps when either participant is nervous.

Sometimes, you just need to play gradually, allowing time to adjust to new sensations and establish new levels of comfort.

That also means giving your own partner the confidence to participate in physical play. I’d recommend sharing the following posts with them, so they know what you need from them, and why it’s important to you:

Spanking is playtime.

Get yourselves comfortable, and you’ll both have a great time.