I wrote a post last year for those who enjoy spanking, but gain much less pleasure from masturbating:
You don’t need to masturbate, and actually, I discourage it in those I discipline. If denial becomes a forbidden fruit, and then a yearning, resisting that craving to touch without permission can become a powerful form of erotic obedience.
So paradoxically, perhaps you need to touch less, and imagine more. Play the self-spanking games, and experiment with other kinds of physical sensations and ways to satisfy yourself.
Remember that the largest sexual organ in the body is between your ears. The clitoris is just a very sensitive sensor, it’s not where orgasms originate – they erupt in your brain, you just feel their echoes between your legs.
And I’ll let you into a secret:
I’ve been able to make partners climax through words alone. Without any touching between their legs. What starts as a yearning, becomes a swelling almost overwhelming desire. Just being strict can be sufficient to leave her teetering on the edge, and a few well-chosen words can tip her beyond, as if I’d just cast a magical spell.
The secret is, there really is no need to rub at all…