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July 2020

Hi. I am a 23 year old has never had an orgasm. I have tried to a lot, but every time I start masturbating, after a while, the desire just, goes away and it starts feeling, mechanical. I don’t know how else to describe it. Spankings while being naked, being humilated by a disciplinarian and then spanked and everything are incredible turn ons, but it never progresses further. Would love to hear back.

I wrote a post last year for those who enjoy spanking, but gain much less  pleasure from masturbating:

https://spankingtheatre.tumblr.com/post/187175914060/chasing-orgasms

You don’t need to masturbate, and actually, I discourage it in those I discipline. If denial becomes a forbidden fruit, and then a yearning, resisting that craving to touch without permission can become a powerful form of erotic obedience.

So paradoxically, perhaps you need to touch less, and imagine more. Play the self-spanking games, and experiment with other kinds of physical sensations and ways to satisfy yourself.

Remember that the largest sexual organ in the body is between your ears. The clitoris is just a very sensitive sensor, it’s not where orgasms originate – they erupt in your brain, you just feel their echoes between your legs.

And I’ll let you into a secret:

I’ve been able to make partners climax through words alone. Without any touching between their legs. What starts as a yearning, becomes a swelling almost overwhelming desire. Just being strict can be sufficient to leave her teetering on the edge, and a few well-chosen words can tip her beyond, as if I’d just cast a magical spell.

The secret is, there really is no need to rub at all…

My dom has continually forgotten specific boundaries of mine and I’ve found myself having to stop in the middle of play and remind him of my limits. Is this a red flag? They aren’t little things, it’s things like not wanting to be slapped in the face and not liking being choked. How should I address this??

This doesn’t sound like forgetting. It sounds like he’s testing you to see how much he can get away with, and because you’ve stood up to him, he’s using slapping and choking as a way to reimpose his authority. This is completely wrong, and an obvious red flag.

In any d/s relationship, the power resides with the submissive alone. Subs cede control and give their consent. Subs set the boundaries, not doms. A dom who is incapable of respecting their partner’s boundaries clearly does not respect the precious human being they’re playing with.

The worry here is that choking is very hazardous, and requires a conscientious partner who you can absolutely trust. I’d worry about any partner who seemed to care more about their own gratification than their partner’s legitimate safety concerns.

Boundaries exist to separate consensual play from abuse. You decide where that boundary is drawn. If he can not respect that, you are putting yourself in peril.

Please, stay safe.

I have read all of your stories, except for Carrot and Stick. Idk if it is just the mobile app or what. But any time I try to click it it says it doesn’t exist.

I think it’s the mobile app, it seems to have difficulty with long text posts.

But you can read it through a web browser at either:

https://spankingtheatre.tumblr.com/post/28570966003/carrot-and-stick

or the WordPress mirror of this blog:

https://spankingtheatre.wordpress.com/2012/08/02/carrot-and-stick/

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