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Hey, do you have any pussy spanking game? I’ll love to play something like that!!!

There are actually several pussy spanking games here…

Imagine you’ve been sent to detention in a school where teachers are
no longer permitted to spank students, who must instead spank themselves
between their legs. Imagine what it would feel like to arrive at
detention and see a wooden ruler on the desk in front of you, knowing
what you had to do next.

Or maybe your pussy is being spanked because you’ve been caught masturbating. But first there’s the ritual of being shaved completely bare, before you are thoroughly inspected and wiped.

If you like those kind of fantasies, you might like to try the instructions in the original Pussy Spanking post.

Or perhaps you’d like to try something more adventurous, and make your own Punishment Girdle. They can be worn secretly underneath clothes, for surreptitious spanking delights.

You could even try some of the self-spanking games – but spank your pussy instead of smacking your bottom. You’ll find there’s lots of transferable ideas for roleplaying and various spanking activities in those posts.

Have fun!

i wonder how a future contraption like a mechanical spanking machine would work…

Given the number of messages I receive yearning for hard stinging spankings, I think a spanking machine for solo play would be a very popular sex toy.

My hunch is that it would look something like this: a flexible rod with some means of  attachment. But I was planning to write a short story on the subject of spanking machines, so I’ll save the exact details until then.

In the meantime, those craving a sore bottom might want to consider exploring this Guide to Self-Spanking.

Self-Spanking Challenge #19: Pussy Spanking

The 19th instalment of the Self-Spanking Challenge! Newcomers can find previous challenges here.


Challenge – Day 19

In previous challenges, you’ve felt the sensation of a rubber band
or elastic snapping between your legs. This challenge involves experimenting with more intense smacks…


The buttocks are well-suited for spanking, but smacks between the legs can also be very arousing.

As this area is much more sensitive, and easily hurt, so to prevent lasting damage, it’s important to learn where you can smack, the right choice of spanking implement, and how to judge the force of the impact appropriately.

1 Spanking Your Mound

The best area to start experimenting is the mons, the pubic mound. The layer of fat beneath the skin here means both stinging and impact sensations can be felt, just like those on the buttocks. To maximise your sensitivity, you may want to shave or wax your mound bare.

One implement you can try on your mound that’s often impractical for your buttocks is your own open palm. Undress so
you’re naked below the waist, and sit on a hard straight-backed chair.
Spread your legs as wide as possible, and then with your open palm,
smack your bare mound. Try to angle your hand so the fleshy areas at the base of your fingers are making contact, rather than your fingers themselves.

Add a nice stingy implement, like a ruler, slipper or a spatula, and you’ll be able to achieve all kinds of erotic
sensations, from little taps to breath-taking smacks. With no contortions
necessary. You can also extend your smacks to land on the upper thighs.

The key to a good mons spanking is to avoid hitting the clitoris, but to deliver impact sensations that will be felt deep within the clitoral body.

2 Spanking Your Slit

Once you’re familiar with spanking your mons, you might want to try smacking a bit lower. Just beware of hurting your clitoris. You might want to try putting a small sticking plaster over the hood to shield it, or even drape part of a towel over your lap to cover yourself, at
least until you’ve honed your accuracy and got used to the sting.

It’s worth using a softer implement when spanking your more sensitive parts. A palm is a good choice, but an implement with a small flexible surface area is even better. The leather flap of a crop is ideal if you have one, and a thin leather belt also works well. 

Try spanking the outer labia first, and the area around the vaginal entrance. The perineum and the region around the bottom hole can also produce very pleasurable sensations if your implement can reach it. Lying on your back with your legs open can make this region easier to smack.

As you won’t be spanking so hard, the sensations you feel from each smack of your slit are likely to be stingy rather than impactful. There is no need to smack too hard chasing the same feeling you get from a bottom spanking.


Remember that a pussy spanking is as much a mental punishment as a
physical one, involving the delicious frisson of being put on display and being smacked on your most vulnerable area.

It’s also worth keeping in mind that pussy spankings should be shorter and much lighter than those you’d receive on your
bottom. Don’t hesitate to halt if it gets too sore, especially if you’re
being punished at the instruction of others. 

Once you’re confident of where to spank your pussy, and how hard, you can incorporate it into your playtimes. 

Imagine
you’ve been sent to detention in a school where teachers are no longer
permitted to spank students, who must instead spank themselves between
their legs. Imagine what it would feel like to arrive at detention and
see a wooden ruler on the desk in front of you, knowing what you had to
do next.

Or perhaps your pussy is being spanked because you’ve been caught masturbating – in the dorms, or in the shower – or maybe you’ve even been caught with your fingers in your panties in class. And school rules are very clear on what happens to those caught touching themselves.

As with all good spankings, physical sensations feel so much better when your imagination is engaged too. Improvise a story, and let it transport you…

Self-Spanking Challenge #18: Punishment Girdles

The 18th instalment of the Self-Spanking Challenge! Newcomers can find previous challenges here.


Challenge – Day 18

In the previous challenge, you explored the sensation of a rubber band snap. This challenge involves creating a punishment garment, which delivers an even more intense smack to where you desire it the most…


The goal of this challenge is to make a garment that you can wear beneath your clothes, and be used by yourself (or another) to deliver a quick smack whenever necessary. There are several ways to make it, as this post will describe.

Garment #1: The Rubber-Band Belt

To give you an idea of what this looks like, see this image. I won’t embed it here, Tumblr’s content filter considers it too explicit.

The image shows a ordinary belt worn around the waist, with a rubber band passed through it in two places. The wearer can then step into the belt and pull it up to their hips, just as they would with a pair of panties, and buckle it closed. The rubber band will now be tight against the wearer’s slit, running between their legs and up the crevices of their buttocks to the back of the belt.

Once in place, the rubber band can be twanged anywhere along its length. At the top to smack the wearer’s mound, or lower on her hood or lips. Or perhaps on her perineum or on her bottom hole – regions that are usually difficult to spank because of their inaccessibility. Smacks between the buttocks can be very arousing, especially when coupled with slaps on the bottom cheeks from a conventional implement like a brush or paddle.

Garment #2: The Elastic Thong

The belt and rubber band described above might leave you wanting something that delivers a more intense smack, but is also more discreet and easier to wear under your clothes. To achieve this, you might need to buy some waistband elastic from a dressmaking shop (it’s also easy to find online).

You want to cut the elastic into two pieces. One that will go comfortably around your waist, and one that will pass from your waist down between your legs and back up to the waist again. So you’ll want to measure yourself and mark the lengths you need to cut. Make the crotch length slightly shorter to make it tighter, if you want the smacks to be harder.

Then you can either sew the two lengths together, (or use safety-pins, or tie them). The waist length becomes a loop, whilst the crotch piece will be attached to the middle of the waist loop, at its front and back. The resulting garment will look like a thong, but made of elastic, and perfectly made to measure, making it perfect for wearing over your panties, so you’ll feel the band between your slit all day. Or under your panties. Or with no panties at all.

Then, when you need it, reach underneath yourself, select the point that will be smacked and tug back the elastic, and let go to produce a delightful smack. Or if you have a partner, wear it beneath a short skirt, which they can reach under and snap whenever you’re too bratty.

Option #3: The Elastic Girdle

Whilst the previous two options enabled smacks between the legs, they didn’t cover the buttocks. This design addresses that limitation, adding elastic that runs over the bottom cheeks, enabling a proper spanking to be delivered.

To modify the belt and band of garment 1, you could add a second belt, and pass both belts between the loops of the elastic bands. Position the bands at the middle of each belt, so they’ll be behind you and against your bottom when you put the belts on.

To modify the thong (garment 2), you’ll need to create a band that goes around your thighs, to which short vertical lengths of elastic can be sewn or pinned. The simplest design is a single band of elastic that goes around both thighs, but means you won’t be able to open your legs. For greater freedom of movement, create a couple of garter bands that are worn at mid-thigh, and into which you can sew the vertical straps of elastic that connect to the waistband.

Hopefully this post will have provided some ideas, particularly for those who enjoy sewing and costume making. If you’re proud of what you’ve created, and what to share your creativity, post it with the tag #selfspankingchallenge18.

And in the next challenge, we’ll explore ways of delivering an even more intense sensation between the legs…

Self-Spanking Challenge #17: Rubber Band

The 17th instalment of the Self-Spanking Challenge!

Newcomers can find previous challenges here.


Challenge – Day 17

A quick (and discreet) way to replicate the sting of a spanking with everyday items is through rubber bands. And you can experience its sting wherever you desire…


One of the biggest challenges I hear from those keen to spank themselves is the difficulty of doing it discreetly, especially when they live with others. Put simply, the wider the surface area of an impact implement, the louder it is. So whilst hairbrushes or wooden spatulas are commonplace, the loud smack they produce often makes them impractical to use.

Rubber bands, on the other hand, have a tiny impact area. Whilst this means the sensation is concentrated on a very small area, and not particularly painful, it also means they’re very quiet.

So, to begin, simply take a rubber band, and press it against your skin. Stretch the band between your thumb and forefinger, and place against where you want to spank. The inner thigh is a good place to practice on, as it’s easy to reach, but the mons and breasts also make good locations.

Now, without moving your thumb and forefinger, use another finger to pull back the portion of the rubber band that’s against your skin – and then let it go. Don’t pull it too far at first, get used to the stinging sensation as it snaps back, you can always begin to pull it further later.

Short tugs will leave you tingling, longer tugs will soon start to hurt, especially if you keep your fingers in the same place so the band snaps back to the same spot. Repeated smacks in the same place will turn your skin pink, and then red. Watch out for the dots that look like pin-pricks, that’s when you’re starting to damage the capillaries in your skin. You might want to stop before that happens and move onto a different area, otherwise you’ll begin to bruise.

Or course, some like bottom marks. So if you move the fingers that hold the band along in a line as you smack, and snap the band repeatedly, you can begin to create a stripe. Perhaps you’ll be imagining you’re being spanked as you do so, or be watching a video of others being spanked.

As you become more adept, you might be able to hold the rubber band against your buttocks. Here, reaching between your legs can be easier than reaching around. Or better still, if you have a Y-shaped item, (i.e. something shaped like a catapult or wishbone), you’ll be able to stretch the band between it. Not having to hold the band between your fingers will increase your reach and enable you to smack your bottom more easily.

Do experiment with where you smack, depending on your sensitivity, why not try the following areas?

  • inner thighs
  • buttocks
  • breasts (and nipples)
  • bare mound
  • perineum
  • outer or inner labia
  • vaginal opening
  • bottom hole
  • clitoral hood

As you play, perhaps you’ll imagine the stinging tip of a riding crop wielded by a strict governess or your favourite disciplinarian roving your body. Or perhaps you’ll snap your band as you’re watching others being spanked, one smack on screen echoed by one snap of your band.

Afterwards, try describing your experience – what did the snap of the rubber band feel like? How did it compare with other spankings you’ve experienced? And how did the stinging sensation change the longer you played?

If you post your write-up, do add the tags #selfspankingchallenge and #selfspankingchallenge17.

And in the next challenge, I’ll introduce you to a way of playing with rubber bands that delivers an even more intense – and interesting – spanking…

I was curious about your thoughts on spanking a naughty girls slit? I was doing one of your self-spanking challenges and decided to see if I would enjoy it as much as the rest of my spanking – and I think I enjoyed it even more. Would be interested to see some sort of challenge based around that, if others are interested?

Smacks between the legs can be very arousing.

If you’re into spanking yourself, shave your mound bare, then strip so you’re naked below the waist, and sit on a hard straight-backed chair. Spread your legs as wide as possible, and then with your open palm, smack your bare mound.

Add a nice stingy implement, like a ruler, slipper or a spatula, and you’ll be able to achieve all kinds of erotic
sensations, from little taps to breath-taking smacks. With no contortions
necessary.

Just beware of hurting your clitoris. I’ve found putting a small sticking plaster over the hood can help shield it, at least until you’ve honed your accuracy and got used to the sting.

You can also extend your smacks to land on the upper thighs, which is a perfect location for anyone
unable to spank their own bottom with as much force as they’d like.

Imagine you’ve been sent to detention in a school where teachers are no longer permitted to spank students, who must instead spank themselves between their legs. Imagine what it would feel like to arrive at detention and see a wooden ruler on the desk in front of you, knowing what you had to do next.

Perhaps your pussy is being spanked because you’ve been caught masturbating. Engage your imagination, and let it transport you.

Yes, perhaps I should make a good spanking on the slit the next challenge, shouldn’t I?

Self-Spanking Challenge #16: A Good Hard Caning

The 16th instalment of the Self-Spanking Challenge! Newcomers can find previous challenges here.


Challenge – Day 16

A highly popular fantasy for many is imagining themselves back at school, being caned by a
strict headmistress or headmaster. In this challenge you’ll learn how to set up an implement that delivers not just the stinging whack of a cane, but one that leaves pink stripes on your bottom…


I
know many readers crave the satisfaction of a warm, stinging,
well-smacked bottom, but lack someone to give it to them. A hairbrush can suffice, but some will crave harder, stingier sensations.

If you’ve read my story Carrot and Stick, you’ll already be familiar with the idea of a self-administered whacking. But you might have
had trouble picturing how this would work in practice. If so, this post
should help explain how
.

Part of the challenge here is procuring a spanking implement you may not yet own. You’re looking for a whacking rod that is thin and springy, as their cross-section is smaller,
they’re much quieter and discreet than slippers and hairbrushes — a useful bonus if you’ve family or housemates nearby.

You
need a rod springy enough to place against your bottom, which then can
be pulled back and released to deliver a hard enough whack. Fibre-glass
is springier than rattan, so better for self-spanking.

Just search your favourite sex toy supplier for “riding crop”, and you’ll be presented with lots of choices. Even Amazon sells a selection, and they’re much cheaper than vibrators.

You can also buy smooth round-section fibre-glass and
carbon-fibre rods from well-stocked craft and model shops. Various diameters are available, the wider the
rod, the less flexible it will be, but you can try before you buy, just pull the rod back a little and let it smack into your palm.

Once
you have your rod, find somewhere to position it. You want to wedge one
end of the rod into a little gap at just below waist height, and
perpendicular to the gap, so you can bend over in front of it. This is
the arrangement described towards the end of Carrot and Stick.

The
key is finding the right position for the rod, it should be wedged
tight and shouldn’t rattle. The best way to do this is to wrap the cane
with something like a flannel or a t-shirt, which will wedge it firmly
in place. If you’ve done it right, it should be virtually silent, with
just a lovely faint swicking sound when you pull it back and release it.

Once the rod is firmly held, then you can pull the rod back like this:

image

See how much it bends back?

Once you have your rod set up, all you need to do is bend over in front of the rod (imagine yourself
on the left hand side of the image above). Then reach behind, pull the
rod backwards, and let go…

For
best results, you should spend some time getting into the mood for your
spanking, and imagine the circumstances of your punishment.

If you fantasise about a school setting, you might like to dress up in school uniform and
watch videos of classroom canings, before its time for you to bend over in front of your own cane. Your skirt will be lifted and panties pulled down, and you’ll feel the cane resting against your bare
bottom. You’ll imagine being scolded by Sir, or Miss, before pulling the rod back, letting go, and a moment later —the swish, and  the whack, and the hot stinging stripe searing across your cheeks.


Once your caning has finished, you may like to pretend you’ve been sent to detention, where you’re told to sit down on your sore bottom and begin
writing. Perhaps you’ll be writing lines, or an essay about how you were punished.

Write by hand, and if you want to post what you’ve written on your blog, you can take pictures of the pages.

Try describing your experience –
what character did you choose to play, why were you punished and who delivered your caning? What did it feel like to be caned, how did it differ from the spankings you’ve previously experienced?

If you post your write-up, do add the tags #selfspankingchallenge and #selfspankingchallenge16.

And
once you have a whacking rod of your own set up, I hope it will enrich your playtimes. It’s not just a new way of reading my stories – whilst bending over in front of your cane, it’s also permits a much sorer spanking, one whose stripes and sting might linger into the morning after…

The Beginner’s Guide to Self-Spanking

spankingtheatre:

This is a repost, the original post fell victim to Tumblr’s filters.

Self-spanking is a lot like masturbation. In private, many enjoy doing it. But you’ll rarely hear many people talking about it.

I’m often asked for advice on self-spanking
by readers who are intrigued by the experience, yet who feel awkward
spanking themselves. This is, I believe, because spanking is more than
just smacks on the bottom, it’s as much a mental experience as a
physical one. Engaging your imagination is the key to a satisfying
spanking, whether you’re alone or with a partner. So in this guide, I
hope to address the practicalities of self-spanking, and provide some
ideas for creating fulfilling and arousing playtimes.

First, let’s consider a question, asked by many, especially those yet to try it.


Why would anyone want to spank themselves?

My answer is that fundamentally, self-spanking is just another form of play.

Think
about it this way: vibrators stimulate nerves in the pussy, and
spankings stimulate nerves in the bottom. Whilst the sensations might be
different, impacts rather than rubbings and vibrations, they are
transmitted by exactly the same nerves: the Pudendal and the Perineal
nerves. When your brain receives signals from these nerves, it
interprets them as coming from the whole genital area. As a result, a
side-effect of spankings is the erotic sensation in the genitals, even
though those areas are not actually being touched.

The Pudendal
and the Perineal nerves are located in the lower parts of the buttocks,
near the anus and just above the tops of the thighs. That’s why this
‘sit-spot’ area is the favoured area for spanking, it’s where smacks are
felt most intensely and pleasurably.

Spankings can also, of
course, be painful; that’s why they’ve historically been a form of
punishment. Pain is your body’s early warning signal, alerting you to
the fact that your body is at risk of damage and injury. So normally,
our response to these sensations is aversion, to move away from what’s
causing the damage. Adrenaline surges through us, our heart races, our
minds concentrate. But if you’re over someone’s knee being spanked,
running away is no longer an option; you must instead grimace and bear
it.

When pain is unavoidable, our brains start to release natural
opiates called endorphins, which not only dull the pain signals
received, so they do not become overwhelming, but also produce a floaty
euphoric feeling. Our bodies have a limited stockpile of endorphins,
once they’re released it takes a while to replenish. Which is one of the
reasons why those with spanked bottoms are often sent to the corner: so
they get to feel the soreness and stinging they’ve received when the
fug of their endorphins wear off.

It is this combination of
arousing tingles in the genitals, adrenaline rushes and natural highs
that, when performed right, can make spankings so pleasurable. So if you
enjoy the sensation of a smacked bottom, there’s nothing wrong with
delivering that feeling to yourself.

Hence I consider
self-spanking a form of masturbation. I regard it as a form of self-love
rather than self-harm, a form of self-pleasuring rather than
self-mortification. Spanking is a complementary physical sensation to
the joys of genital rubbing, and as those who’ve experienced a spanking
already know, well-smacked bottoms tend to lead to the most intense
orgasms…

As a result, for many who enjoy spanking stories,
self-spanking is just a natural extension of how they masturbate, giving
them the chance to experience for themselves some of the physical
sensations they’ve just been reading about. After all, what else could
make story about submission any more erotic, than physically submitting
yourself to the story?

Yet it would be wrong to consider
self-spankings as an activity of last resort, an ersatz experience when
no spanker is nearby. On the contrary, it provides a way for readers to
play in the privacy of their own homes, to indulge their own fantasies,
without weirding out a partner or revealing what they’d rather keep to
themselves. It’s the same reason why many with regular sexual partners
still like to play with themselves.

Having explained why
self-spanking is popular, you might be getting curious, tempted to try
the experience for yourself. So the next section will explain some of
the basic practicalities for the benefit of beginners.


How to Get Started

Giving
yourself a spanking is as simple as reaching back and slapping your own
bottom. But there’s a few practical aspects worth considering that will
make the experience more intense, and enjoyable.  

The first is
choosing what you’ll spank yourself with, whilst you can use the palm of
your hand, you’ll achieve a far better sensation with a proper spanking
implement. This is because of science! Specifically, the mechanics of
levers – a spanking implement will multiply the force you apply to
yourself, giving a harder whack for the same effort. Using an implement
also means you’ll experience a single impact sensation, having your palm
sting at the same time as your bottom tends to break the spell of what
you’re imagining.

Good items to use for spanking can be found all
around the house. Try slippers, flip-flops, wooden rulers, hairbrushes,
wooden spoons, spatulas, and bath-brushes. Then if, once you get into
it, you want to get more serious about bottom smacking, you can add a
proper spanking paddle to your basket the next time you go sex toy
shopping.

If you’re not an experienced spankee you’ll quickly
discover some implements are more painful than others. Generally
speaking, the harder and heavier the material, the less forgiving it
will be. So sturdy hairbrushes will hurt more than light balsa wood
spatulas. Implements that flex, like flip-flops and slippers will be
more forgiving than rigid items like rulers and brushes.

The next
issue to consider is what position to adopt whilst spanking yourself.
For this, choose whatever you find most comfortable, or best fits the
fantasy you’re imagining. You might want to bend over a pile of pillows,
or the edge of a sofa, or straddle the corner of your bed.

Other
positions you might try are leaning against a wall, over the back of a
chair or a banister, of kneeling on cushions with your bum in the air.
The possibilities are too numerous to list, just choose one that
supports your own weight comfortably, and leaves your strongest arm free
to reach around to apply your chosen implement to your bottom.

The
position you choose will dictate the angle that you’ll spank yourself
from, usually reaching back and around. For a different sensation you
can try lying on your back and lifting your legs, allowing you to spank
in between them, this position is particularly good for smacking your
sit-spots, and enjoying the ‘shame’ of exposing yourself.

The
duration of your spanking is also up to you to decide, it will depend on
the implement you use and your own tolerance of pain. The key here is
to start small, and build up until you find the degree of soreness you
find most satisfying.

If you’re new to self-spanking, you might
like to choose a softer implement like a slipper, and give yourself a
single smack on each cheek, then pause and feel the warmth on your
bottom. Then spank again, maybe adding a couple more smacks before your
next pause. Perhaps when your bottom starts getting sore, you can take
break, imagine you’ve been sent to the corner, and stand facing the
wall, feeling cool air wafting over your hot cheeks. Then maybe your
imaginary disciplinarian decides your spanking wasn’t sufficient, and
your brattiness earns you a trip across their knee for seconds.

Once
you’re comfortable with the sensation of being spanked, try timing
yourself, so you can measure the duration of your spanking in minutes.

One
last consideration is privacy. Unlike masturbation, which you can do
virtually silently in your own bedroom, the noise of a spanking is
unavoidable. This shouldn’t be a problem if you live alone or with a
kinky partner, but otherwise you’ll be limiting your self-spankings to
times when you’re alone in your home.

So, that’s the physical
practicalities of self-spanking, now let’s consider the mental side, and
in particular, how do you make it erotic?



The Importance of Turning Yourself On

Here I’m going to introduce three ways how you might eroticise a self-spanking session.

The first is what I’d call Spank-As-You-Read, and is described in Naughty Game #6 – Naughty Reading.
This involves reading a spanking story, and imagining yourself as
somehow inside it, so when you read about spankings, you get to
experience them vicariously. The benefit here is the story is scripted
for you, it’s like a roller-coaster, you just buckle in and enjoy the
ride.

Perhaps you already masturbate when you read spanking
stories. Imagine if, instead of riding to orgasm, you put your fingers
of your weaker hand between your legs, and used your stronger hand to
rub your bottom with a slipper. Then, the rubs would soon turn into
spanks, and you’d begin to grind against your fingers. You’d smack
slowly, savouring the sound of the slap, the lingering sting.

Soon
you’ll be immersed in the story, your imagination engaged, can you
imagine you’re in it? Perhaps you’ll act out what you’re reading, speak
the dialogue aloud. A climax will be inevitable, but this one will be
different, you’ll end the tale with a delightfully warm bottom of your
own, and a head full of delicious thoughts.

The
second way to act out a fantasy of your own. This gives you the freedom
to improvise, and indulge the kind of activities that turn you on. There
is an art to getting into the right mindset for make-believe though, if
you find this difficult, you might want to warm yourself up with some
suitable erotica first, either visual or the written word.

Perhaps
you’ll imagine a favourite scenario, like reporting to the headmaster,
or being sent to bed early by Daddy. Or even to re-enact a spanking
picture of video you really enjoy. You might want to dress up for the
occasion, invent a bit of a back story, apologise or plead aloud when
it’s made clear your bare bottom is due for a whacking. Perhaps there
will be cornertime, writing of lines or a confession no one will ever
read. Just engage your imagination and invent a scene you’ve always
wanted to come true.

Here are the challenges I’ve posted so far. Enjoy your adventures…

Day 1 – The Fascination of Spanking

Day 2 – Choices and Consequences

Day 3 – Dressing Up

Day 4 – Anticipation

Day 5 – Cornertime

Day 6 – Alter Ego

Day 7 – Being Naughty

Day 8 – Bottom Inspection

Day 9 – Pillow Hump

Day 10 – Echoes

Day 11 – Christmas Story

Day 12 – Star in a Story

Day 13 – The Proper Way to Watch a Spanking Video

Day 14 – A Note From School

Day 15 – Fire and Ice

Several readers have been in touch asking how to incorporate more bottom-smacking into their play. So if getting more spankings is one of your resolutions this year, you might be interested in these playtime ideas…

The Beginner’s Guide to Self-Spanking

This is a repost, the original post fell victim to Tumblr’s filters.

Self-spanking is a lot like masturbation. In private, many enjoy doing it. But you’ll rarely hear many people talking about it.

I’m often asked for advice on self-spanking
by readers who are intrigued by the experience, yet who feel awkward
spanking themselves. This is, I believe, because spanking is more than
just smacks on the bottom, it’s as much a mental experience as a
physical one. Engaging your imagination is the key to a satisfying
spanking, whether you’re alone or with a partner. So in this guide, I
hope to address the practicalities of self-spanking, and provide some
ideas for creating fulfilling and arousing playtimes.

First, let’s consider a question, asked by many, especially those yet to try it.


Why would anyone want to spank themselves?

My answer is that fundamentally, self-spanking is just another form of play.

Think
about it this way: vibrators stimulate nerves in the pussy, and
spankings stimulate nerves in the bottom. Whilst the sensations might be
different, impacts rather than rubbings and vibrations, they are
transmitted by exactly the same nerves: the Pudendal and the Perineal
nerves. When your brain receives signals from these nerves, it
interprets them as coming from the whole genital area. As a result, a
side-effect of spankings is the erotic sensation in the genitals, even
though those areas are not actually being touched.

The Pudendal
and the Perineal nerves are located in the lower parts of the buttocks,
near the anus and just above the tops of the thighs. That’s why this
‘sit-spot’ area is the favoured area for spanking, it’s where smacks are
felt most intensely and pleasurably.

Spankings can also, of
course, be painful; that’s why they’ve historically been a form of
punishment. Pain is your body’s early warning signal, alerting you to
the fact that your body is at risk of damage and injury. So normally,
our response to these sensations is aversion, to move away from what’s
causing the damage. Adrenaline surges through us, our heart races, our
minds concentrate. But if you’re over someone’s knee being spanked,
running away is no longer an option; you must instead grimace and bear
it.

When pain is unavoidable, our brains start to release natural
opiates called endorphins, which not only dull the pain signals
received, so they do not become overwhelming, but also produce a floaty
euphoric feeling. Our bodies have a limited stockpile of endorphins,
once they’re released it takes a while to replenish. Which is one of the
reasons why those with spanked bottoms are often sent to the corner: so
they get to feel the soreness and stinging they’ve received when the
fug of their endorphins wear off.

It is this combination of
arousing tingles in the genitals, adrenaline rushes and natural highs
that, when performed right, can make spankings so pleasurable. So if you
enjoy the sensation of a smacked bottom, there’s nothing wrong with
delivering that feeling to yourself.

Hence I consider
self-spanking a form of masturbation. I regard it as a form of self-love
rather than self-harm, a form of self-pleasuring rather than
self-mortification. Spanking is a complementary physical sensation to
the joys of genital rubbing, and as those who’ve experienced a spanking
already know, well-smacked bottoms tend to lead to the most intense
orgasms…

As a result, for many who enjoy spanking stories,
self-spanking is just a natural extension of how they masturbate, giving
them the chance to experience for themselves some of the physical
sensations they’ve just been reading about. After all, what else could
make story about submission any more erotic, than physically submitting
yourself to the story?

Yet it would be wrong to consider
self-spankings as an activity of last resort, an ersatz experience when
no spanker is nearby. On the contrary, it provides a way for readers to
play in the privacy of their own homes, to indulge their own fantasies,
without weirding out a partner or revealing what they’d rather keep to
themselves. It’s the same reason why many with regular sexual partners
still like to play with themselves.

Having explained why
self-spanking is popular, you might be getting curious, tempted to try
the experience for yourself. So the next section will explain some of
the basic practicalities for the benefit of beginners.


How to Get Started

Giving
yourself a spanking is as simple as reaching back and slapping your own
bottom. But there’s a few practical aspects worth considering that will
make the experience more intense, and enjoyable.  

The first is
choosing what you’ll spank yourself with, whilst you can use the palm of
your hand, you’ll achieve a far better sensation with a proper spanking
implement. This is because of science! Specifically, the mechanics of
levers – a spanking implement will multiply the force you apply to
yourself, giving a harder whack for the same effort. Using an implement
also means you’ll experience a single impact sensation, having your palm
sting at the same time as your bottom tends to break the spell of what
you’re imagining.

Good items to use for spanking can be found all
around the house. Try slippers, flip-flops, wooden rulers, hairbrushes,
wooden spoons, spatulas, and bath-brushes. Then if, once you get into
it, you want to get more serious about bottom smacking, you can add a
proper spanking paddle to your basket the next time you go sex toy
shopping.

If you’re not an experienced spankee you’ll quickly
discover some implements are more painful than others. Generally
speaking, the harder and heavier the material, the less forgiving it
will be. So sturdy hairbrushes will hurt more than light balsa wood
spatulas. Implements that flex, like flip-flops and slippers will be
more forgiving than rigid items like rulers and brushes.

The next
issue to consider is what position to adopt whilst spanking yourself.
For this, choose whatever you find most comfortable, or best fits the
fantasy you’re imagining. You might want to bend over a pile of pillows,
or the edge of a sofa, or straddle the corner of your bed.

Other
positions you might try are leaning against a wall, over the back of a
chair or a banister, of kneeling on cushions with your bum in the air.
The possibilities are too numerous to list, just choose one that
supports your own weight comfortably, and leaves your strongest arm free
to reach around to apply your chosen implement to your bottom.

The
position you choose will dictate the angle that you’ll spank yourself
from, usually reaching back and around. For a different sensation you
can try lying on your back and lifting your legs, allowing you to spank
in between them, this position is particularly good for smacking your
sit-spots, and enjoying the ‘shame’ of exposing yourself.

The
duration of your spanking is also up to you to decide, it will depend on
the implement you use and your own tolerance of pain. The key here is
to start small, and build up until you find the degree of soreness you
find most satisfying.

If you’re new to self-spanking, you might
like to choose a softer implement like a slipper, and give yourself a
single smack on each cheek, then pause and feel the warmth on your
bottom. Then spank again, maybe adding a couple more smacks before your
next pause. Perhaps when your bottom starts getting sore, you can take
break, imagine you’ve been sent to the corner, and stand facing the
wall, feeling cool air wafting over your hot cheeks. Then maybe your
imaginary disciplinarian decides your spanking wasn’t sufficient, and
your brattiness earns you a trip across their knee for seconds.

Once
you’re comfortable with the sensation of being spanked, try timing
yourself, so you can measure the duration of your spanking in minutes.

One
last consideration is privacy. Unlike masturbation, which you can do
virtually silently in your own bedroom, the noise of a spanking is
unavoidable. This shouldn’t be a problem if you live alone or with a
kinky partner, but otherwise you’ll be limiting your self-spankings to
times when you’re alone in your home.

So, that’s the physical
practicalities of self-spanking, now let’s consider the mental side, and
in particular, how do you make it erotic?



The Importance of Turning Yourself On

Here I’m going to introduce three ways how you might eroticise a self-spanking session.

The first is what I’d call Spank-As-You-Read, and is described in Naughty Game #6 – Naughty Reading.
This involves reading a spanking story, and imagining yourself as
somehow inside it, so when you read about spankings, you get to
experience them vicariously. The benefit here is the story is scripted
for you, it’s like a roller-coaster, you just buckle in and enjoy the
ride.

Perhaps you already masturbate when you read spanking
stories. Imagine if, instead of riding to orgasm, you put your fingers
of your weaker hand between your legs, and used your stronger hand to
rub your bottom with a slipper. Then, the rubs would soon turn into
spanks, and you’d begin to grind against your fingers. You’d smack
slowly, savouring the sound of the slap, the lingering sting.

Soon
you’ll be immersed in the story, your imagination engaged, can you
imagine you’re in it? Perhaps you’ll act out what you’re reading, speak
the dialogue aloud. A climax will be inevitable, but this one will be
different, you’ll end the tale with a delightfully warm bottom of your
own, and a head full of delicious thoughts.

The
second way to act out a fantasy of your own. This gives you the freedom
to improvise, and indulge the kind of activities that turn you on. There
is an art to getting into the right mindset for make-believe though, if
you find this difficult, you might want to warm yourself up with some
suitable erotica first, either visual or the written word.

Perhaps
you’ll imagine a favourite scenario, like reporting to the headmaster,
or being sent to bed early by Daddy. Or even to re-enact a spanking
picture of video you really enjoy. You might want to dress up for the
occasion, invent a bit of a back story, apologise or plead aloud when
it’s made clear your bare bottom is due for a whacking. Perhaps there
will be cornertime, writing of lines or a confession no one will ever
read. Just engage your imagination and invent a scene you’ve always
wanted to come true.

Here are the challenges I’ve posted so far. Enjoy your adventures…

Day 1 – The Fascination of Spanking

Day 2 – Choices and Consequences

Day 3 – Dressing Up

Day 4 – Anticipation

Day 5 – Cornertime

Day 6 – Alter Ego

Day 7 – Being Naughty

Day 8 – Bottom Inspection

Day 9 – Pillow Hump

Day 10 – Echoes

Day 11 – Christmas Story

Day 12 – Star in a Story

Day 13 – The Proper Way to Watch a Spanking Video

Day 14 – A Note From School

Day 15 – Fire and Ice

Day 16 – A Good Hard Caning

Day 17 – Rubber Band

Day 18 – Punishment Girdles

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